Bisexuality, often misunderstood and overlooked, is an essential part of the diverse spectrum of sexual orientation. For many, embracing a bisexual identity can be empowering and liberating, but it also comes with unique challenges, particularly within a predominantly heterosexual society and a broader LGBT+ community that sometimes harbours its own misconceptions.

 

What is Bisexuality?

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Bisexuality refers to an individual's capacity for attraction to both men and women. This attraction can be sexual, romantic, affectionate, or emotional. It does not have to be equally split between genders, and there may be a preference for one gender over another. It's important to note that bisexuality is not a phase or a state of confusion but a genuine and authentic sexual orientation.

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Common Myths and Misconceptions About Bisexuality

 

Bisexuality often faces unique misunderstandings that can lead to harmful stereotypes and invalidation. Here are some of the most common myths and why they are unfounded:

 

Myth: Bisexuality is just a phase.
This misconception implies that bisexuality is a temporary state of confusion or experimentation before someone "decides" whether they are gay or straight. In reality, bisexuality is a valid and enduring sexual orientation for many people. It is not a stepping stone but a legitimate identity in its own right.

 

Myth: Bisexual people are promiscuous as they need to have sex with both genders.
This stereotype unfairly paints bisexual individuals as unable to commit to a single partner. Just like people of any other orientation, bisexual individuals can have meaningful, monogamous relationships or other types of relationship structures based on personal choice and consent.

 

Myth: Bisexual people are 50/50 attracted to men and women.
Attraction in bisexuality doesn't have to be equal or consistent. It varies significantly from person to person. Some may feel a stronger attraction towards a particular gender, while others experience fluid or shifting attractions throughout their lives.

 

Myth: Bisexual people stop being bisexual if they are in a monogamous relationship.
A bisexual person's orientation doesn't change based on their relationship status. Whether they are dating someone of the same or opposite gender, or not dating at all, their bisexuality remains valid.

 

Myth: Bisexual people are confused about their sexuality.
Bisexual individuals are not confused; they simply experience attraction to more than one gender. Their orientation is as legitimate as any other and doesn't need to be explained or justified.​

 

Challenges Faced by Bisexual Individuals

 

Bisexual individuals may face criticism from both the heterosexual community and some members of the gay and lesbian communities for a perceived inability to "make up their minds."

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Bisexual individuals may encounter unique challenges, including discrimination, social stigma, and disapproval based on cultural, religious, and social norms.

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Exposure to ongoing social stigma and discrimination, rather than bisexuality itself, often contributes to poorer mental health outcomes among bisexual individuals compared to gay, lesbian, and heterosexual individuals. Research consistently indicates that bisexual people report heightened feelings of social isolation, distress and low self-esteem. There are also higher rates of anxiety, depression, substance misuse, self-harm and suicidal ideation. Addressing these mental health concerns with a qualified health professional is essential.

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How LGBT Counselling Can Help

 

If you're navigating your bisexual identity, questioning your orientation, or struggling with the decision to come out, LGBT counselling can provide a safe and supportive space to explore your feelings. Here are some ways counselling can be beneficial:

 

Affirming Your Identity: A therapist experienced in LGBT+ issues can help validate your experiences and challenge any internalised biphobia or doubts about your identity.

 

Navigating Relationships: Whether you're struggling with dating, communicating your orientation to partners, or facing issues within your existing relationships, counselling can provide strategies and support to navigate these dynamics.

 

Dealing with Stigma and Rejection: Counselling can help you develop coping skills to manage the emotional impact of stigma, rejection, or misunderstandings from others, allowing you to build resilience and self-acceptance.

 

Exploring Your Sexuality Safely: It's normal to have questions or uncertainties about your sexual orientation. A counsellor can provide a non-judgemental space to explore these aspects of yourself without pressure or fear of judgement.

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Additional Resources About Sexuality

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Find out more about a range of other sexual orientation issues and how talking to an LGBT counsellor can help:

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• Challenging Myths: An In-Depth Exploration of Same-Sex Attraction

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• Navigating Your LGBT Coming out Journey

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• Navigating Life as a Gay Individual: Challenges, Relationships, Mental Health & Support

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Bisexual Counselling Services Perth

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Understanding and embracing your bisexuality is a unique journey. It's okay to take your time, explore your feelings, and seek support along the way. If you have concerns about your sexual orientation or need assistance managing social or relationship pressures, please contact me to schedule an appointment. Talking to an LGBT therapist is an effective way to manage and gain a better understanding of your struggles. My approach is warm and respectful, and I offer a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space for you to explore your concerns and develop effective strategies to address them.